How to write a goodbye letter

When you’re living with a terminal illness, writing down what you still want to say to your family and friends can bring a surprising sense of relief, especially when speaking the words out loud feels too heavy. At the same time, the word goodbye letter can feel overwhelming. As if you’re preparing yourself for something you’re not ready for yet. As if writing it means closing a door while your life is still moving.

But you can also see it differently: as a moment of looking back. Like when you pause at an old photo, a song that suddenly hits you, or a small memory that appears in the middle of an ordinary day. It’s simply a way to capture what matters most, to you, and to the people you love. And remember: it doesn’t have to be perfect. Your letter can grow, change, and evolve over time. Anything you write is right, as long as it comes from you.

For your loved ones, your letter becomes something to hold onto. A small piece of you that stays close, especially on the days when life feels harsh or empty. A tangible reminder filled with your words, your warmth, maybe your humor, and all the little details that make you you.

For some, writing is also a way to clear the mind, to pause and reflect on what you’ve lived through, what you feel, and what you want others to know. It can bring calm, clarity, or simply relief because the thoughts finally have a place to go.

“Think of a goodbye letter not as a final chapter, but as a gentle reflection, like pausing at a photo that still makes you smile.”

Don’t expect yourself to write a full letter in one sitting. You don’t need to. Just start with a few words that feel right today. A memory that surfaces. A sentence you’ve been wanting to say. That’s already more than enough.

Your letter doesn’t have to be finished, honestly, a letter like this is never truly finished. Just like everyday life, things shift, feelings change, and thoughts move around. Let your letter move with you. There is no right or wrong.

And this might help too: most people leave nothing behind at all. So whatever you write, no matter how small or imperfect it feels, is already something incredibly meaningful. You’re giving your loved ones a piece of yourself. Something they can return to later, simply because the words came from you.

These aren’t rules, just gentle suggestions to help you get started.

You don’t have to be brave. You don’t have to be cheerful. You don’t have to write neatly or in the “right” order. A goodbye letter can be messy, honest, soft, simple, humorous, or quiet.

Exactly the way you are.

You’re doing this because you love someone. And that’s what matters most. You don’t need to find all the right words. You don’t need to cover everything. Every sentence you leave behind is precious.

Start with one word. That’s enough for today.

If you feel ready to share your words, you can write your letter digitally in our app within just a few minutes, gently, step by step. You choose who will receive it, and you also decide when: on a special date you select, or directly after your passing. We’ll make sure your letter is delivered at the right moment. Curious how it works? Click here to take a look on our ‘how does it work page’ for a simple explanation.